1.        It’s OK to feel what you feel. Feelings are not right or wrong. They just are. There is no one who can tell you what you should feel. It’s good and it’s necessary to talk about feelings.

2.       It’s OK to want what you want. There is nothing you should or shouldn’t want. If you’re in touch with your life energy, you will want to expand and grow. It’s OK and it’s necessary to get your needs met. It’s good to ask for what you want.

3.       It’s OK to see and hear what you want to see and hear. Whatever you saw and heard is what you saw and heard.

4.       It’s OK and it’s necessary to have lots of fun and play. It’s OK to enjoy sexual play.

5.       It’s essential to tell the truth at all times. This will reduce life’s pain. Lying distorts reality. All forms of distorted, thinking must be corrected.

6.       It’s important to know your limits and to delay gratification some of the time. This will reduce pain.

7.       It’s crucial to develop a balanced sense of responsibility. This means accepting the consequences of what you do and refusing to accept the consequences for what someone else does.

8.       It’s OK to make mistakes. Mistakes or our teachers – they will help us learn.

9.       Other people’s feelings, needs, and wants are to be respected and valued. Violating other people leads to guilt and accepting the consequences.

10.     It’s OK to have problems. They need to be resolved. It’s OK to have conflict. It needs to be resolved.

Source:  “Coming Home” by John Bradshaw