'Despair mingles with fear, shame and pain ..." towards self destruction. 'Despair is the absence of hope, truth and light."

"Despair is the strangling of our spirits."

As he looks at despair, he concentrates on these adulthood symptoms that follow;

• RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

How can I have a healthy relationship with you if I can't have one with myself?

• PHYSICAL AILMENTS

When we can't have our feelings they come out all over the body. The more healing professionals learn about diseases, they are finding that they come from the dis-ease with being who we are.

• BOUNDARY ISSUES

I had to face the fact that I was an undisciplined disciplinarian. How can I set healthy limits for my children if I won't do it for me?

• IDENTITY PROBLEMS
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• SHAME & GUILT BEHAVIOR
• SEEKING EXTERNAL VALIDATION - WE ARE A NATION STUCK IN WHAT THE REST OF THE WORLD THINKS OF US
• CARETAKING, ENABLING
• COMPULSIVE ADDICTIVE BEHAVIOR
• DISSOCIATION
• INTENSITY ISSUES – BLOW MY MIND AND I'LL FOLLOW YOU ANYWHERE
• ANXIETY PROBLEMS
• LOW SELF-ESTEEM
• HYPER CAUTIOUS
• COLLUSIVE ROLE
• VICTIM ROLE
• OFFENDER BEHAVIOR
• PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE
• BEING STUCK
• SAINTHOOD/MARTYRDOM
• TOLERANCE BREAKS
• PROBLEM ORIENTATION - IF I SOLVE ENOUGH PROBLEMS, I'LL BE OK
• OBSESSIVENESS
• PSEUDO MATURITY
• EMOTIONAL PAIN

“Nothing changes until we become real.” TERRY KELLOGG

”180 degrees from sick is still sick.” TERRY KELLOGG